Finding solutions together - how collaborative law helps ease the pain of family breakdown
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When a married couple decide that the time has come for them to part, they are frequently worried about seeing solicitors for fear that the process of divorcing will add to the existing acrimony.
However many divorcing couples also have family, mutual friends and in-laws all of whom have an interest in seeing them through this painful process without prejudicing their friendships or more particularly the welfare of any children.
Many spouses going through a divorce hope to remain on cordial terms with their ex-spouses at the end of a divorce. In these circumstances, it is often better to reach solutions together and ease the pain of relationship breakdown while holding on to the realistic hope that a very different but still positive friendship may flourish at the end of the process.
This is particularly the case where mutual decisions have to be made in respect of children, be it their graduation, marriage and ultimately the birth of grandchildren.
Collaborative law and the amicable divorce
How the collaborative process works
When you instruct a Collaborative Solicitor, rather than negotiate a settlement by way of impersonal correspondence and if that fails leave a decision to a Judge in Court, the parties agree to sit down together and try to work it out face to face.
Unlike the conventional process, with Collaborative Law you do not deal through your solicitors but work with them to reach the best solution for you and your family.
If you and your spouse have a genuine desire to make this process work, a willingness to disclose information about assets openly and honestly, and are prepared to enter into an agreement that you will endeavour to reach a solution without going to Court, then Collaborative Law may be the appropriate alternative for you.
The “environment” in which you proceed with Collaborative Law therefore is to still retain the benefit of your own independent legal adviser but you remain in control without the prospect of Court proceedings hanging over you. You set the agenda, the pace and talk about things that are most important to you and your family.
Collaborative Law requires a certain amount of sincerity, trust and the ability to communicate to serve your mutual benefit and avoid Court proceedings. It may not be suitable for all potential divorces particularly where one of the parties has a dominant character. However with a degree of understanding and with both parties being prepared to enter into the spirit of collaboration, it can be the most suitable way of resolving a sensitive dispute.